You’ve asked this question with worry that you are at “lower volume“ when you upload a new song then your competition, and the truth is...

#2020 is not just the enthusiasm of a new year that lasts a couple of months.

You'll be impressed by how many people working as Audio Engineer don't listen to music.

Artist and producer relationship with Mastering engineer

If your mixes are lacking certain "quality" in contrast to other productions, don't rush yourself to get where others are

At some point, you are mixing for the algorithm and not for you. And I truly think that's not what you really want.